difficult-woman or human-woman
It’s, nevertheless, in times of optimization, automatization, and monetization of the individual that we must bring up the difficult woman. The difficult woman was born to be a pleasant woman, and that’s something told to her by her caregiver, possibly her mother (but not always), who was also born to be pleasant but ended up being the fuse force of the difficult woman, for good or bad. Or both.
In times of super profiles and super information, when any woman can improve, learn about psychology, spirituality, money, and health in a few-minute video or tutorial, in times when one can fast make a “super woman,” a woman with delimiting boundaries and distance from patriarchy and toxic environments, the difficult woman becomes a fundamental inquiry.
In a medieval Western past, difficult women were burned; in modern times, difficult women were harassed (aka euphemism); in contemporary times, the difficult woman is about to be abolished. With the help of LLM models, any difficult woman can have her tone and words correctly adjusted for the circumstances. For instance, also, a difficult woman can learn that her challenges are effects of traumatic events from childhood, and by recognizing this, and adding other patterns and venues that justify her difficulty as an effect, she accepts being an effect and stops being a cause.
The difficult woman then practices gratitude and joy and workouts and smoothies and five-minute meals filled with super grains. The difficult woman must be abolished, in non-stop cycle, something echoing from her “own” mind. Remember: pleasure is rooted in her first gestures because she was taught so, and it’s not difficult for her to perform not being difficult.
However, alongside her pleasures are her difficulties. At times, she plays the fusion of these two contradictory forces all at once, and what happens when difficulties and pleasures meet is something no audience is willing to applaud.
She might go on a date, and after an almost pleasant conversation, because she hears something she doesn’t feel happy or comfortable with, she will leave the venue. She is stopped and asked for a reason: “Why are you leaving me?” And at this moment, she might simply say, “Because I want to.” At this moment, the difficult woman cracks the vectors and all the literature on the internet: she does not practice empathy or communication. She is not being rude. She is playing herself without any exterior assistance. She leaves.
The difficult woman, at times, engages in conversations in which her comments are not the most pleasant or the most difficult, neither neutral (she could be silent!), but instead are genuinely herself, which provokes a certain uneasiness. The audience searches its repertoire of possible matching past behaviours, why and how is she saying that? Where it comes from? They don’t understand.
The difficult woman is not herself difficult. Her words and her body are not difficult ones, they never were. But perhaps people around her feel how difficult it is to be under “undoing” mode. Difficulty comes when something can't be defined or resolved, it’s a non-answer.
The adjective itself, difficult, still carries one of the most humanistic traits left in humanity: the ability to contain and express challenge. It doesn’t turn someone impossible; it turns someone simply human, i.e., contradiction existence might not be an optimizing trend nowadays.
The difficult woman is, in her best, a woman-human, something quite difficult to be found.